Thursday, March 28, 2019

Are You Too Busy to Be Productive?

It used to be that when you saw a friend and asked, "How are you doing?" the reply would be "Fine."  Maybe "Great." Things are different now.  A more common response to "How are you doing?" these days is:  "Busy."

I'm interested in this because one of the most common {memory-keeping myths} I find myself having to bust is: "I don't have time for my pictures and my memories.  I'm too busy."  I have seen a big culture shift in the 14 years I've been a Heritage Makers storybooking and memory-keeping consultant.  Most people I meet seem to be busy and overwhelmed, and--oddly--they seem to hold onto it for dear life, as if being in high demand (or busy) makes them important.  Sadly, over the past 14 years, I have seen an increase in general busyness, a change in priorities and attitudes, and a decrease in connections with loved ones and actually being in touch with our own hearts.


As I started looking into busyness, time management, productivity (and whatever other catch phrase you know of that fits) as a way to help my clients and potential clients out of the "I don't have time" hole, I came across a lot of insightful and helpful articles and ideas.  I began collecting them, so to speak--and you can find them at the {"don't have time?" tab} at the top of this blog.

BUSY IS THE NEW STUPID
One of the first articles I came across was on LinkedIn, and it's called {"Busy is the New Stupid"}.  I was taken aback by the title, so of course I had to read it.  The author, Ed Baldwin, says that as a society we have come to glorify busyness, as if that makes us more valuable or important.  He proposes that most of us waste a lot of time, aren't engaged in anything fully because we try to multi-task, and have become more short-sighted.  Baldwin states that busyness increases careless mistakes and results in more missed opportunities.  He says we treat busy as if it's cool, but busy is actually stupid.  Then he shares a quote that hits most of us close to home:

"Regret for the things we did can be tempered by time; it is regret for the things we did not do that is inconsolable."  -Sydney J. Harris


Baldwin recommends that instead of saying, "I'm too busy for ________," we change our verbiage to, "________ is not a priority for me."  That can apply to everything from "My pictures and memories are not a priority for me," to "I meant to call you, but it wasn't a priority for me."  Anything we're "too busy" for is really not a priority.  When it comes down to it, we make time for things that are important to us.  "Busy" parents at Christmastime find time to go shopping; they make it happen. It's not REALLY about being busy--it's about what is or isn't a priority to us.

THE BADGE OF BUSYNESS
One of the more recent fabulous articles I read about busyness is from Bree Weber where she actually conducted an experiment about busyness!  I'll tell you about it, but I also recommend the whole article to you: {The Badge of Busyness}.  She talks about how acceptable "busy" is and how easy it is to use it as an excuse to not even exchange pleasantries in passing or to avoid going to an event you don't want to go to.  Saying we're busy is easier than saying, "I'd rather not go."

We draw more and more inward when we can present as our face to the world a badge of busyness.  As an {introvert}, I'm totally cool with drawing inward, to be honest, but I also know it's not always good for us.  From not sharing our gifts with the world to spending too much time with Netflix or Facebook (which has been shown to {increase depression}), looking outward and making good use of our lives is vital to our well-being.

Bree's busyness experiment was two-fold.  The first part was to try different responses when asked "How are you doing?" by both colleagues and strangers during business and professional phone calls.  She would respond with either:
  • "My week has been so great!  I went hiking with a friend on Saturday and had lunch with my mom yesterday.  I'm going out of town next weekend, and I'm really looking forward to it."
  • "Oh, my week has been so crazy.  I have deadlines approaching and have been working nights.  I am so busy, and I have so much to get done."
Interestingly, both responses yielded almost the same result.  The first response yielded silence or else a quick return to a business topic that would lead to comments on being so busy.  The second response, Bree found, always yielded the same thing:  a one-upping statement about who was busier.


I was amazed at how little patience there was for any personal communication, how little time was allowed to actually listen to another person.

The second part of Bree's experiment was even sadder, I thought.  When people would reply with something busyness-related, Bree would respond with something like, "Wow, it sounds like you're so overwhelmed.  I'd love to help you.  I bet there are at least 3 things on your to-do list today that you could drop.  Tell me about what your to-do list is today."  Bree found that every single person she talked to was very protective of their to-do list.  They wanted to keep all their action items (and in some cases became rather defensive of them) to prove how important they are to their work and all the things that make them busy.  Some, she said, used the fact that they were too busy to trim down their action items as proof that they are indeed crazy busy.  And, therefore, important.

TOO BUSY TO BE PRODUCTIVE
Something that both of these articles have in common is that they found that many people are too busy to be productive.  How is that possible?  Doesn't busy mean we are doing things?  Well, not necessarily.  Yes, doing things.  Not always useful, helpful, meaningful things.  Not always things that matter.


WHY WE CAN'T AFFORD TO BE TOO BUSY FOR OUR PHOTOS AND MEMORIES
I've talked to a handful of people lately about photos and memories who say, "Oh, I really need to get some memory-keeping done--my kids keep asking me for it."  Memories and photos matter a great deal to kids.  It helps them feel loved, and it gives them something happy to remember and look to when life is hard.  Kids need to know they are a priority.  They need to know that their life's experiences count for something.  Kids love looking at pictures of vacations and birthday parties and first days of school.  They enjoy reminiscing.  It helps them know they belong.  It validates them and makes their little hearts happy.

And guess what.  It's not any different for adults.  Looking back at your life's experiences makes you the owner of them.  Reminiscing increases happiness!  It increases a sense of purpose and belonging.  Memory-keeping even reduces stress, so if you're "busy" and need something to relieve stress, look no further than your own camera.  Yes, a massage or an hour of Netflix may cut down on stress, but why not do something that will be as meaningful to you next month and next year and ten years from now as it is today?  Why not do something your kids or siblings or nieces and nephews will appreciate for years to come?  Why not do something stress-relieving that actually lasts?

DON'T MAKE IT HARDER THAN IT REALLY IS
Many people get tripped up on the idea that memory-keeping (preserving photos and memories in a tactile way) means scrapbooking--sitting down for hours and hours with stickers and scissors and paper and pens and pictures spread across three tables.  For some people, this creative outlet is fun and meaningful, so it's their preferred memory-keeping method.  And it works!  But if that's not you, there are other options!  Don't make memory-keeping harder than it really is.  It doesn't have to be complicated, and it doesn't have to take a lot of time.  

Quality is my number one recommendation, though, so make sure your memory-keeping method isn't something that will fall apart 5 years from now.  I have {four high-quality memory-keeping suggestions for you right here}, from digital books and scrap pages that are heirloom-quality to simple paper memory-keeping like Pocket Pages.  Choose whatever method will work best for you!  You'll see my recommendations at that link, too.  And don't forget {my services if you need a memory-keeping partner or someone to do the hands-on parts of memory-keeping}.

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THE TWO-PART "BUSY" CHALLENGE

Did these perspectives on "busy" make you think of things a different way?  They did for me.  So I have a two-part challenge for you going forward:
  1. Stop saying "Busy" as a response to "How are you?"  Look for positive things you're doing or looking forward to that you can say in your reply.  Make your responses upbeat instead of beaten down.  I've been doing this for several months, ever since I read Bree's article.  I think it makes me feel more positive and less overwhelmed.
  2. Stop thinking you're too busy for your photos and memories and start making time for them.  You'll find yourself with a little more peace and a little less stress.  And you'll also have something tangible that will be meaningful to you and your family for years and years and years.  I'm a regular memory-keeper, so I actually enjoy all those benefits I listed above about why memory-keeping is good for adults, too.  It's REALLY good for me--I can tell.  If you need some help setting aside time to prioritize your pictures, join me for my online work sessions.  They're free, and you can find information in the "don't have time?" tab in purple at the top of this blog (under the header).
After implementing each of these, come back and let me know how things changed for you!  (by commenting below)  I know you won't be too busy.

Monday, March 25, 2019

Heart & Soul LinkUp #18

Looking to start your Monday off right with some blog posts that are good for the heart and soul?  You've come to the right place.  All day today, bloggers will leave links to their blog posts for all of us to enjoy.  You can find them down at the bottom of this post (and leave your own posts if you're a blogger so long as you know {the rules for posting}).


Before getting to the new posts to love, let's highlight the most-read posts from last week!  I'm including links to them, too, in case you missed them before.

MOST-READ POSTS

from Shannon at DeBord Studios

from Debbie and Debbie-Dabble Blog

from Kristie at Love My Little Cottage

from Nylse at LifeNotes

Thanks to all the bloggers for sharing their lovely posts here!  If you were a featured favorite, show off by sharing this image on social media or your own blog.

And now it's time to find some new blog posts to love.  Sit down with a warm drink and enjoy as many as you like!
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Monday, March 18, 2019

Heart & Soul LinkUp #17

Welcome to Monday and this week's Heart & Soul LinkUp!

New to LinkUps?  They're fun!  Readers get to read a variety of blog posts from many bloggers, all of which follow our theme "what's good for the heart and soul."  Bloggers will be leaving links to their blog posts throughout the day today.  Come see what you'll love!

(New bloggers are welcome to share their posts!  Just be sure to read the six rules for sharing your links at the end of {this post.})


Every week at Heart & Soul LinkUp, we first feature favorites from the previous week.  Here are last week's favorites, complete with links if you'd like to re-visit them.

READER FAVORITE

from Debbie at Debbie-Dabble Blog

MY 3 FAVORITES

from Krista at Love My Little Cottage
This is a sweet post about a great family story, an experience her husband had as a little kid that taught him a valuable lesson.  I never saw the "moral of the story" coming.  It's a great one!

from Lori at Choosing Wisdom
Sometimes the thought of creating a new habit--doing something new--can be a little daunting, but Lori breaks down the process into 4 helpful ideas.  I personally love the piggybacking idea and the great quote by Benjamin Franklin.

by Alora at Small Kitchen Chef
I love simple recipe ideas, and this looks like a great one--I have pesto lovers AND shrimp lovers at my house.  I like how Alora made it with both spaghetti pasta and spaghetti squash to highlight options.  

Thanks to all the blogger who participated last week!  We always have such a lovely little collection of blog posts.  If your post was a favorite, celebrate on social media using this image:

And now it's time for Heart & Soul LinkUp #17!  Read and see what you especially love this week.
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Thursday, March 14, 2019

6 Unique, Creative, and Personal Graduation Products (Pinterest-worthy without the work!)

I just made the most adorable, memorable graduation items that I'm SO excited to show you today!  There's nothing like taking a creative, fun idea and then being able to just push a button to make it reality.

I love how you can make a special event even more special using Heritage Makers personal publishing.  As a bonus, I can make projects for you!  Everything created in Heritage Makers is professionally published and shipped to your door.


Let me show you the 6 gorgeous, coordinating items this lucky grad will be using for announcing and celebrating her graduation.  (I am blocking out the name and school and other details for privacy.)  Each one of these fun items is something you can order from me--something I can digitally create for you, submit for publishing for you, and have shipped straight to you.  So I'll include some details about how to order each one.

It's like getting Pinterest-worthy creations without the work.

If you would rather DIY these fantastic items without me creating and ordering them for you, the cost will be a few dollars lower for each item.  You can get started {here}.

1. SENIOR PHOTOS KEEPSAKE BOOK and/or SIGN-IN/AUTOGRAPH BOOK
Preserve and show off senior photos with a lovely keepsake book with quotes, or use the book as a guest sign-in book at a graduation party without the quotes (with spaces for writing instead).  Or order one of each!  The 11.5x8.5 book is hardbound with a library binding using metal stitching, not glue (which cracks over time, making pages fall out).  Pages are premium 100-lb. archival quality paper. 

Here's the design of the guest sign-in or autograph book.  Photos are on the left pages, and spaces for friends or party guests to write are on the right.
Don't mind the privacy-related coverups there.  Your book won't come with that.  ;)



The keepsake senior photos book with quotes is the same as the book shown above with a few variations.
Again, your book won't come with the privacy-related coverups.  ;)


with quotes instead of lines for writing

How to order: {contact me here} to provide me with

  • 2 school colors to replace the red and blue on the front and back (I'd love to see an actual school website or something online with the school colors so I get a more accurate color.  No guarantees on perfectly-matched school colors.)
  • 12-18 pictures (Be sure to let me know which one you want on the front.)
  • choose white flower or white button for accents on some of the pages, or choose no accents
  • name, school, graduating year for the front cover
  • If ordering the senior photos with quotes book, provide me with 5-6 of your desired quotes.
Order information to know:
  • Allow 2 weeks for me to create your book and 2 weeks for professional publishing and shipping, for a total of 4 weeks.
  • Each book has up to 21 pages and costs $52 which includes the price of the book, shipping, and cost for me to make it for you.  Again, if you would rather DIY your book(s) at my Heritage Makers website, the cost will be a little lower.  Get started {here}.
2. CHOCOLATE WRAPS (labels)
I love these!  Making a special celebration even more special!  These wraps are made from address labels and are the perfect size to wrap around Hershey Nuggets!  They are always a hit.  Labels come in a set of 54.  They are 2.625" wide and 1" tall.  Labels are self-adhesive and full color. This project requires some DIY--after receiving the labels, you will need to buy Hershey Nuggets and wrap the sticky labels around them.  

The red privacy cover will be where the student's name is. 

The white privacy cover on the side is the high school and high school mascot.
The write privacy cover on the back (the bottom) is the college and college mascot
(or "congratulations, grad" if preferred).

How to order: {contact me here} to provide me with:

  • 2 school colors to replace the red and blue on the front and back (I'd love to see an actual school website or something online with the school colors so I get a more accurate color.  No guarantees on perfectly-matched school colors.)
  • student name, school, graduating year, school mascot
  • college name and mascot for the bottom (or "congratulations, grad" if preferred)
Order information to know:
  • Allow 1 week for me to create your labels and 3 weeks for professional publishing and shipping, for a total of 4 weeks.
  • Each set of 54 labels costs $8, which includes the price of the labels, shipping, and cost for me to make it for you.
3. GRADUATION ANNOUNCEMENTS
These ultra-personal announcements are 7x5 and come with envelopes.  Announcements are double-sided thick paper with a matte finish.

front of 7x5 announcement; student name, high school name, date, and college hidden
for privacy
back of 7x5 announcement; message on the back is up to you


How to order:  {contact me here} to provide me with
  • 2 school colors to replace the red and blue (actual logo or school website is preferred for a more accurate color)
  • 6 pictures--4 landscape, 1 portrait, and 1 square (or that can be cropped square)
  • choose white flower or white button on the back (behind the graduation cap)
  • choose pennant message (or remove pennant if preferred); pennants available in blue, red, and green only and cannot be color-matched to your specific school color
  • all details you would like included in the text, front and back 
Order information to know:
  • Allow 1 week for me to create your announcements and 3 weeks for professional publishing and shipping, for a total of 4 weeks.
  • Contact me for specifics.  (Minimum order) 10 announcements costs $23.50.  Discounts available for orders over 25.  Prices include the announcements, shipping, and cost for me to make them for you.
4. MATCHING RETURN ADDRESS LABELS (for the announcement envelopes)
Address labels come in a set of 54.  They are 2.625" wide and 1" tall.  Labels are self-adhesive, full color, and have 54 of the same label.  Labels are higher-quality than you can print at home and have a slight gloss which enhances the photos and digital art (the flower/button, etc.)

I love the matchy-matchy!  I think it gives both a personal and professional look to the graduation announcements!


How to order: {contact me here} to provide me with
  • 2 school colors to replace the red strip and the blue background (I'd love to see an actual school website or something online with the school colors so I get a more accurate color.  No guarantees on perfectly-matched school colors.)
  • 1 portrait-orientation photo (optional)
  • choose white flower or white button embellishment
  • name and address to be shown
Order information to know:
  • Allow 1 week for me to create your labels and 3 weeks for professional publishing and shipping, for a total of 4 weeks.
  • Labels (set of 54) are $8, which includes the price of the labels, shipping, and cost for me to make it for you.
5. "CONGRATULATIONS" GRADUATION BANNER
Darling on a mantle, wall, or long table, this banner is made on four 12x12 scrap pages.  Scrap pages are printed on glossy 100-lb. cardstock-like paper.  This project requires some DIY--after receiving the pages, you will need to cut out the pieces, punch holes in the top corners, and tie with ribbon or string for display.  Completed banner measures about 6 feet.
4 scrap pages with the "Congratulations" message and a senior picture 
Banner pieces cut out; there's a graduation cap on the C and a diploma on the S.
Completed graduation banner, displayed
How to order: {contact me here} to provide me with
  • 2 school colors to replace the red and blue (actual logo or school website is preferred for a more accurate color)
  • 1 picture that can be cropped to a square (which I will make a circle) 
Order information to know:
  • Allow 1 week for me to create your banner (scrap pages) and 2 weeks for professional publishing and shipping.
  • $20, which includes the price of the scrap pages, shipping, and cost for me to make it for you.
6. WATER BOTTLE LABELS
One of my personal favorites for absolute adorableness, these water bottle labels come in a set of 12.  They are made on Heritage Makers' Large Labels.  This project requires some DIY--after receiving the labels, you will need to cut each label in half then wrap them around your own water bottles.  Wrap first and chill later to help the sticky-backed label stick.  It is suggested you wrap the water bottle with plain white paper about 3.5" high (taped on with double-sided tape, then place these labels on top.
This is how the label comes printed.  You'll need to cut it in half down the middle
of the blue stripe (which you can change to your class color, of course). 

The graduate's name will go where that cover-up is.
The graduate's name will also go where this cover-up is.
"Nutritional Information" will be printed as shown unless otherwise requested.
"Ingredients" list will be printed as shown unless otherwise requested.
Photos show labels on a 10 oz. bottle.  Labels will be 3" high.  The combined width of the two pieces of labels to wrap around the bottle is 7.5".  


I put the two label pieces on separately, but you can also stick them together first before wrapping around the bottle, like this:

How to order: {contact me here} to provide me with
  • 2 school colors to replace the red stripe and the blue stripe (I'd love to see an actual school website or something online with the school colors so I get a more accurate color.  No guarantees on perfectly-matched school colors.)
  • name of graduate, "class of" year, and school name/initials 
Order information to know:
  • Allow 1 week for me to create your labels and 3 weeks for professional publishing and shipping, for a total of 4 weeks.
  • Labels (set of 12) are $10.
I'm so excited for this graduate to be able to send such personal graduation announcements, have wonderful photo keepsakes of this exciting time in her life, and have some personalized swag at her graduation party! 

Do you have a graduation coming up or know someone who does?  Share this post with her/him, either on social media or by e-mail.  Or Pin the image below to Pinterest so you can find it again when you DO have a grad to celebrate.
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These products can be made for any celebration--birthday, retirement, anniversary, bar/bat mitzvah, baptism, etc.  Just ask!

Monday, March 11, 2019

Heart & Soul LinkUp #16

Welcome to this week's linkup!  If you're new to linkups, they're just a fun blog-sharing platform is all!  Bloggers leave links to their blog posts all day today.  Readers can read whichever posts their hearts desire.  :)  All blog posts should follow the theme "what's good for the heart and soul," so you might see posts on self-care, organization, family, inspiration, pictures, recipes, or DIY.  (Bloggers, before sharing your links, be sure you read and follow the rules for posting, which can be found way down at the end of {this post}.)


But first let's celebrate the favorite blog posts from last week's linkup!  First, let me say to the bloggers who participated last week:  The majority of you got a vote as favorite!  :)  It was interesting to see all the votes come in (most of which were e-mailed to me) and see such a wide variety of favorites.  Your work is loved, so thank you for sharing it with us!

Of course, I'm including links here so you can visit these posts again.

READER FAVORITE
from Janine at Thrive on One Income


MY 3 FAVORITES

from Alicia at My Plant Based Family
I loved this post for 2 reasons.  #1 I have tried Alicia's recipe (the quinoa-black bean version) and it's SOOOO good!  You would never guess there's not meat in it.  My whole family likes it.  It's delicious!  #2 I have never heard of canned jackfruit, so now I'm dying to find it and try that version. 

from Lori at Choosing Wisdom
If you tend to try to "fix" everything, or if you're a people-pleaser, don't miss this post.  My favorite things from Lori here were the power of the "I am" statements (including "I am allowed...") and leaving the responsibility where it belongs.  These are so freeing!  Great thoughts and direction here.

from Cary at Cary MacArthur Personal Power Coach
This blog post is a video!  I think this post spoke to me so much because I believe strongly in individuality, that every person has gifts that their world needs.  Cary is an expert at helping people (women especially) step into their own power and find their own voice, and I loved her message here.  "It's 100% okay to be you," was my favorite take-away.

If you were a featured favorite, celebrate (or show off!) on social media or your blog using this image:

And now it's time for this week's linkup.  Remember to show our blogger friends some love by commenting on their posts.

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Monday, March 4, 2019

Heart & Soul LinkUp #15

Hooray, it's Monday!  You probably don't hear that very often.  Well, neither do I, but Mondays mean Heart & Soul LinkUps here at LifeTales Books.  Bloggers will be leaving links to their blog posts all day today, all in keeping with our linkup theme:  what's good for the heart and soul. 

We love meeting new blogger friends, too, so if you're a blogger with a post to share that follows our theme, {read the rules for participating at the end of that post}, then scroll down to leave links.


But first things first!  Here's what we loved about the posts shared at last week's linkup (with links in case you missed them last time):

READER FAVORITE

from Jennifer at Evolve

MY 3 FAVORITES

from Shannon at DeBord Studios
If you have a friend who works at or owns a small business, be a pal and read Shannon's 6 ways to support her/him.  These things really make a huge difference!  In my small business, a simple share on Facebook or a word of mouth recommendation is a really big deal.  When you've read Shannon's tips, do her a favor and leave her a comment, then Tweet or Facebook Share her post.  ;) 

from Nylse at LifeNotes
This post was almost the Reader Favorite, and I'm not surprised since it was one of mine as well.  I think these are important to remember in marriage, parenting, business, and life!   Nylse points out that expectations in and of themselves aren't bad (I think they're quite natural), but that when we neglect to take our actual reality into consideration, expectations can become detrimental.  Be sure you click through to read the 10 tips.  


from Marsha at Markets of Sunshine
I am quickly becoming a time management tip junkie because I often hear "I don't have time" as a reason for not preserving photos and memories.  (You may have noticed the "don't have time?" tab at the top of this blog.)  What I especially liked about Marsha's post is that her tips aren't just for the home and just for clutter--they are for LIFE.  I think we'd all do better if we picked just 2 things from Marsha's list and made those changes.

Thanks to all the bloggers who shared their posts last week.  Congratulations to the featured favorite posts!  Use this image to celebrate on social media or your blog.

And now it's time for this week's Heart & Soul LinkUp.  The collection of blog posts will be completed Monday night.  You can vote for your favorite blog post (or 2 or 3 if needed) by commenting below or by e-mailing me at jenniferwise4heritagemakers@gmail.com on Tuesday.  The blog post with the most votes will be the Reader Favorite next week!

Remember to show the bloggers below some love and thanks for sharing their posts by commenting on them or sharing on social media if you like.

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