So
many things vie for our attention these days. It seems like we hardly
have a minute to sit still. We’ve got soccer games and piano lessons and
grocery shopping and laundry and (ahem) blog posts to write. And we take
pictures of everything these days. Preserving those photos and the
memories that go with them tend to sit on the to-do list for long periods of
time for most people. But
not me! And
I’ll tell you why.
Here's what it all comes down to: I need my pictures and memories.
Seeing
photos and reminiscing about happy times has been shown to actually {increase happiness in the
present} as well as {increase your relaxation}. I need that. I am busy, worried, stressed, and
overloaded on a pretty regular basis. I can’t take a trip to Hawaii every
time I need to relax.
{Reminiscing} lets
you go home. It’s Christmas again. I’m with my grandpa again.
I’m bringing that sweet baby home from the hospital again. Re-living the
good times gives me perspective on the bad ones. It gives me hope and a
greater sense of peace. I’m more centered and grounded because I’m in
touch with my own self. And, let me tell you– I need that.
I don't just need my pictures and memories--I need the process of preserving them.
I saw
a very funny ad recently about preserving your photos by basically pushing a
button, and how much better that is than “wasting time” doing it the
traditional way. I enjoyed the ad until “wasting time” was mentioned, and
then I choked a little bit. Pushing a button is all well and good, and
it’s better than not having any preserved pictures at all, for sure.
But because we’re so “busy,” we
have completely lost sight of what the PROCESS of memory-keeping really does
for us.
"It’s a valuable exercise to close your eyes every once in a while and think, “What is the most wonderful moment I have lived through during the past year?” It might be part of a grand event or a very simple moment, perhaps a brief interaction with another person. The grand or simple, it doesn’t matter." ~Marjorie Pay Hinckley
Taking the time to interact with your photos and your memories is
cathartic.
Much like keeping a gratitude journal, putting words to your life’s experiences
as you preserve photos gives you perspective and gratitude and a sense of
purpose. The process is necessary.
I’ve
mentioned this a lot in previous #familyhistoryfriday posts because this is a really big deal. It’s very important to me. What photos,
memories, and family stories do for kids has a lasting impact:
{greater sense of belonging, an increased ability to cope with difficult times, and better ability to bounceback} as well as {higher self-esteem and greater emotional well-being}.
I
want my kids to have something to hold in their laps and look at that will lift
their spirits when times are tough. I want them to have the ability to
reminisce. I want them to see connections and see how they belong when
they see pictures of grandparents and cousins. I want them to be uplifted
when they remember. I want a venue to tell my kids what I love about
them, what I see in them. I want to celebrate their accomplishments and
even the times they tried and didn’t really accomplish what they’d
hoped. I want them to see that we had
fun along the way.
One
of the biggest reasons I prioritize staying caught up on preserving my pictures
and memories is because I forget quickly. My memory fades. Ask me
about my first job or my first day of college, and I can tell you very few
things. I don’t remember them very well because I didn’t write anything
down and I didn’t take a picture. If I had taken pictures and then written
about it when I preserved the pictures, I would know more details right now
than I do.
Ask
me about our first apartment after we got married or about the beach trip with
my cousins when we were teenagers, and I can tell you a lot more because I took
pictures and wrote down my memories of the events. Preserving photos and memories is the best way I know of to {keep your memory from fading}!
In
fact, I would say that memory-keeping
is the ability to “google” your life! Isn’t that true?! I
can’t tell you how many times we’ll be sitting around as a family talking about
something and someone will say, “Now when was that?” or “What did it look
like?” and we’ll pull out our family scrapbooks and look it up! It feels
a little like pulling out your phone to look up the actor in the movie to try
to figure out where you know him from, or any of the other things we look up
with ease these days. Having scrapbooks, memory books, photo books, and
albums lets you look up and reminisce and learn and enjoy!
I
know we’re all busy. I know memory-keeping can fall by the wayside.
But in addition to preserving my memories while they’re still fresh (and before
I forget details), I stay caught up preserving my photos and memories
because I need all the benefits that I’ve listed
here. I need to remember good times, feel grounded, and have a greater
sense of gratitude right now. I need the cathartic
experience of interacting with my photos and the story of my life in a very
real way right now. I need my kids to have a
greater sense of belonging and increased self-esteem and greater
resilience right now. Will I need those things
in the future? Absolutely. But I just can’t wait. I need all
the {benefits of family stories,
photos, and memories right now}.
Making
time for memory-keeping can be challenging, but there are lots of tricks to
make it work. I’ve mentioned several in previous #familyhistoryfriday
posts, and I’ve collected some really helpful links and information {here}. Like
most things in life, we tend to find time for our priorities.
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The
week after I graduated from college, I attended a women’s conference there at
my alma mater. I remember few things that were said at that event more
than 20 years ago, but I will always remember one statement one of the speakers
said:
“We have too much to do so that we will know what is important.”
Think
about that. Let it stick with you, too. We don’t have to do
everything. We just need to do what matters.
If you missed the last 3 #familyhistoryfriday posts about HOW I stay caught up, links to each can be found {here}.
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post was originally published at www.livegrowgive.org on
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